At your age, you've been through quite a bit, but it just goes to show you know what you want.After trying out most things once, your second shot is sure to be much better.Maybe it’s a journey of self-discovery and enlightenment when you have a sweet book deal, a massive expense account, and reservations at a luxury ashram in India.But when you’re working with a freelance magazine contract, a Target gift card and a one-bedroom in South Philly, divorce simply sucks. Not that there’s ever a good time to drop the D-bomb on your life.This is where I paused to do some mental math, and quickly realized that, for a piece focused so much on age, it sure does tiptoe around making any direct reference to the age of the these men are concerned they’ve missed out on. While financially strenuous, women can become parents on their own, without a male costar beyond what was ejaculated into a cup.But with many sharing Choffel’s belief that the “sense of life is to have kids,” odds are these lonesome straight bachelors are opting to date women with plenty of child-bearing years left. “I just turned 40,” Jonathan Lee told the “Thinking about the math, the longer I wait to start my own family, you start to think, ‘When I consider someone to marry, I have to find someone young enough to have children. Single women can also raise children with friends or family members as part of their core support system.
If you're ready to explore the dating scene, you'll find plenty of other people looking for a relationship after divorce, so don't be shy! If single 30- and 40-something men are either still out at the club keeping the Pussy Posse alive or tending to their sudden desire for a more “meaningful” existence by settling down with women who are younger, where does that leave all the “really good” grown ass single women* who, FOR THE LOVE OF FUCKING GOD, just want to be treated like human beings and not costars the universe provides to enhance the stages of too many men’s glacially-paced journey towards understanding that life is more meaningful when you actually give a shit? Allow me to ask the question the piece goes out of its way to leave unacknowledged: What about straight single women over 35 who are seeking commitment and maybe even a family?Style section had a sobering little piece about single guys (mostly straight, though two gay men were quoted as well) in their 30s and 40s who are starting to realize that a successful career won’t massage their aching, aging knees and being the last guy to leave the club is not a good look. I found myself getting worked up about this piece despite it being fairly innocuous – it even features the nice story of 40-something guy who decided he wanted to settle down, went outside his comfort zone and ended up meeting a future wife and baby mama that my cynically-motivated Google stalking revealed is actually pretty age-appropriate.With most of their friends already married, these greying bachelors are torn up about the future. All his friends have significant others and children, so there’s no one to go out and get drunk with. But the sense of life is to have kids and try to give them as much as you know. I believe the day you go somewhere where you aren’t supposed to be, you end up falling in love and having babies. It’s not that I completely lack empathy for single men in my age range who are only now starting to crave deeper bonds; I just find it frustrating that the guys interviewed, not to mention guys I know, seem to think being emotionally available is a laborious buzzkill.Tall, well-dressed, seriously great smile — this was going to be just fine. I’ve never been one to make plans, so I didn’t really know what Friday night was going to look like in my 30s.