When you take premarital sex off the table (so to speak), on what basis do single men engage with single women?
I had a dream during my freshman year at BYU that I was in an arranged marriage, honeymooning in my parents’ house (ah, the romance! When it was time for bed, my new husband came into my room wearing flannel pajamas with horses all over them.
He was a total dork, utterly devoid of any sexual attractiveness, but I remember thinking in the dream that I was obligated to be in this marriage because he was worthy. But part of me felt guilty for not being able to look past his dorkiness to see the divine potential within and to make this marriage work.
But they aren't going to be unacceptable for everyone, and they won't keep someone out of the Temple.You can’t tell me there wasn’t another street-smart French sweetheart of a guy who wouldn’t have appreciated her for who she was. Now before everyone starts emailing me for being a thoughtless unromantic for taking their love triangle away from them, let me get to my point. We can’t just let life pass us by, pining for a guy we are too scared to talk to or one we think is totally out of our reach.Or, even worse, pining for one that rejected us in the past and broke our hearts to a million pieces. If you are pining for someone, chase him down and find out if it’s right.Alisa Goodwin Snell spent 17 years as a marriage and family therapist before becoming a dating and relationship coach.She’s written several books for singles, been on over 100 TV and radio programs nationwide, and is a sought out public speaker.Instead, we can embrace a good partner with whom we can become the best together.